5 Reasons Why You Should Not Delay Marriage
Benefits to marry early
Beep Beep! The alarm starts ringing as soon as the golden carefree days of college are over. And within few days of first job, the complacency of newfound self dependence boils down to a state of despondency. The alarm gets louder and louder until it gradually turns into a daisy chain of reminders.
Past a certain age, you are expected to get married and start a family. Your parents who earlier educated you to not fall into relationship traps would now start bugging you to look for a match. If not them, relatives, neighbors or other acquaintances add to most of the drama by inquiring about the progress of your matrimonial search. To escape the plight, you offer explanations which you expect would fit the best (the most common one is busy work life). But they don’t take the bait leaving you irritated when not a single place or occasion is spared. Soon, you start skipping social gatherings so as to avoid the unwanted blandishment of people.
Looks unfair, isn’t it? Especially when life still seems to be just beginning to live out your sumptuous dreams or forgotten passion streaks. Besides, marriage loads you with social and moral responsibilities, increases financial expenditures, imposes a cascade of rituals and hooks you with a single person for entire life!
We abhor all this, right? At least upto a certain period of time. And more than sheer reluctance, there is a fear of getting tucked with a wrong person and cursing your decision ever after.
So you need one thing very badly in the matter – time!
But beware. While time is a strong force which helps you prepare for a decision, it is a boundary defining factor as well.
Early twenties may be the best time to stay focused on your goals or enjoy the merits of singlehood. But mid-twenties and so forth is the time to not ignore the proverbial alarm bell. Here are the reasons why:
1.Family Planning: While many people quote, “age is just a number” in order to break their psychological barriers, it has very little to do with the biological cycle being an uncontrollable natural process. As a woman crosses thirty, significant degradation in quantity and quality of eggs also decreases her chances of conceiving a baby gradually. This decline in fertility speeds up further after thirty-five. Besides, the risk of miscarriage and birth complications increases too for middle-aged moms. Disappointment comes from the fact that this biological age limitation of females is overlooked by the opposite gender. Hence, middle-aged boys who are casually turning down every other suitable girl saying, “I am not in a hurry” need to be aware what a big complication are they reserving for future.
2.Easy adjustments: The earlier you marry, the more time you get to know your partner and make adjustments. You are more naïve and flexible when you are young. As age progresses, maturity may add to fragility and boredom. Life gets busier and tougher, leaving less time for understanding each other. Though, success in marriage cannot be guaranteed in either case, but couples who marry early offer easy adjustments and sacrifices to each other, hence increasing the chances of a sound relationship.
3.This is the right time: There is never a perfect time for anything. For people who fear marriage and procrastinate the decision, it is important to keep in mind that waiting for the right time might make them lose what they could have now. Why not face the fear head-on rather than dreading it. Once you enter that zone with the partner of your choice, you can fight your fears together because he/she would be having the similar ones. Similarly, so many such negative factors can be tackled together along with a gifted treasure of happy memories.
4.Chances of finding potential match: If you are above thirty or so, you would be surely struggling with the most common setback of late searching. The possibility of finding a potential partner decreases with age because the point of time which was ‘too early’ for you might have been the most appropriate one for your compatible matches to get married, leaving you with a scarce pool of prospects over the time.
5.Age difference with children: If you get married during your early or mid-twenties, and have children in some years down the line, not only you would be young and active parents to them, your children, in a long run would be financially independent to manage the household enough before the time of your retirement.
While things may not always happen as you plan because the concept of marriage boils down to finding the right partner, which encompasses many criterion, sometimes difficult to click. But for those who have found their special someone, it is advisable not to delay the decision beyond a good extent. And those who are ‘enjoying their singlehood’ are suggested not to keep their search on loose end.
Benefits to marry early
