These Simple Things Can Make Your Marriage Happier
Tips for Happy Married Life
A ceremony which links two families together through a fusillade of rituals and new responsibilities is not the only way to define the divine bond of ‘marriage’.
The true meaning of marriage lies in the bonding of hearts between two people. While many people may relate marriage with a dependency on the spouse it is exactly the other way round. Marriage is about developing a bond of trust with your partner so strong that you can actually give him/her a sense of freedom, a sense of mutual understanding and get the same in return. It is all about sharing everything the way it is and drawing out the solutions to many problems of life together.
Although dependency comes with attachment, the patience soon transforms into complaints and love decays over time but this is where creativity comes into picture. What if you could look at your spouse from a fresh perception every day. What if you could be able to forget the past and rely on the present moment. What if each day could bring about a pleasant discovery about each other. What if life were an interesting journey free from dependency and expectations.
I have heard a lot of couples fighting over things as small as leaving the geyser switched on, or forgetting the favorite song of the spouse, or missing important dates. Deep down we all regret the noisy quarrels over something which could be easily overlooked. But at the some time,we fear to confess about our mistakes to our partner. Because we cannot surrender our egos. What if we could?
Once I saw a woman complaining to her husband for having forgotten to fulfill an old promise. Feeling bad for the woman, I thought what is the point of making promises? Should not a person allow himself the freedom of time to do what he plans? Why render the other person waiting for the promises to be fulfilled (which happens very rarely).
As they say, ‘Promises fail, efforts succeed‘.
Only if one gets rid of the shackles of a stale memory, married life can be made very interesting, full of fun and free of boredom. That is the reason why going on a holiday rejuvenates the relationships. Couples forget their differences for a while because the memory which was full of bad experiences with each other repletes with fresh and happy moments. What if the memory could be refreshed on daily basis?
Responsibilities increase manifolds after marriage, but for the same reason, it is an important phase of evolution or growth, where one learns to keep his self image intact while coping with the family or social needs. During difficult circumstances, it is only the spouse’s support that matters. It can make an individual feel powerful and confident every time. The only thing needed is to give an environment to each other to open up and share. There can be embarrassing times, or moments of inferiority, but the honesty will strengthen the bond forever.
