Sometimes, you feel like you actually belong to the people who surround you. In the trivia of talks that are simply carried out to keep a social and emotional connection, you find your opinions, ideas and problems matching perfectly with theirs. They laugh at your jokes at perfect timings too. While other times, they turn out to be slack and pointless. It is not only nothingness that bothers you, but the unreasonable feeling of sorrow which can work against you if it shows in the behavior. You feel totally disconnected and different. You then fear to voice your contradictory opinions to avoid untimely arguments. In case, the other person too has got something on their plate, you might touch a sensitive nerve.

Now silence can be a sign of rudeness to the companions, so you start looking for spaces to fill with few carefully measured words. But you fear, you fear a lot because what little you said has already made their faces cringe. You can’t go any further in this except walking with them like an impostor soaring at a different frequency, travelling in different space.

You can’t do anything about leaving a rude impression on the companions . The damage is already done leaving you alone with self pity.

The truth is that very few people are able to negotiate a satisfactory social contact with peer groups during the periods of secret troubles. And that mostly requires tactics over wisdom.

So it would be better to say nothing than say negative. The only trouble silence can cause is curiosity which does not harm relationships.

So rather than caring about the consequences of temporary disorientation, it would be better to let the moment pass without much to think about. Let them make their assumptions out of your not talking much in the group but don’t try to clarify them. Because your thoughts were only revolving at random.

Instead, just try to be lenient with yourself given the fact that your mind can have nuances day in day out. If that doesn’t let you be at your best, you can choose isolation, or you can say, your personal space at those times. Meditation for example, is an ideal, yet easy wayout. Self-talk is another deal. Or even to do nothing at all is alright too.

Remember, time is a great healer. If you wait patiently in your own space, relationships won’t go anywhere.